Hello my gorgeous friends! Yes, I still have marriage on the brain! I have been married to the love of my life for three months… amazing, life changing, adventure-taking months. When planning your big day it’s so much stress that comes down to the best twenty-four hours of your life, the day you look and feel most beautiful. Then, once the stress and organization (or disorganization) of planning is done and the big day is over, what happens?
This won’t be a blog explaining how to send your dress in to be cleaned or reminding you to review your vendors. I love to ask couples who have been married 20, 30, 40 plus years what is their “secret to marriage”. You bet I have received some amazing answers! Today I will be sharing just a small portion of advice I have received over years of asking and investigating. Sustained marriage is a rare thing to see, while divorce rates are at an all time high.
So, what is the secret? What happens after the wedding is over?
“Travel.. Why would you spend your whole life just chasing after money… spend it and make memories.”
“Always date and flirt with your spouse. Grab their butt. Cook. Dance. Enjoy life together.”
“If your husband didn’t clean before, he won’t now that you are married. No magic button here.”
“People are wrong, marriage isn’t 50/50. Each person needs to aim to give 110%.”
“Have the conversation, who will be doing what chores, who will pay the bills, etc. This may sound silly but these are real questions to ask.”
“Do not bring up the “D” word… ever. No matter how upset you are, divorce is not an answer.”
“No silent treatment, no sleeping in separate rooms. If you need time to cool off, then cool off but separation may only cause more of a wedge it won’t solve any issues.”
This is my most favorite advice to live by as much as possible:
“Once you are married, you are a TEAM you are a unit. You make money for your team, you dream with your team, then you grow and succeed as a team.”
I will not be a statistic, I don’t want my children to have worry about who will have them on what holidays or weekends. I believe fully in my vows, no matter what rough patch we will ever face. Please take some of this advice and use it to the best of your ability. If you would like more blogs like this, be sure to let me know. Thank you so much for taking the time to visit my website. I’m sending you all of my love and all of my positive energy.